Marriage

This is something very important to me I know someone who was married only 2 weeks ago and yesterday they separated. 2 weeks and shes wanting to throw in the towel. Marriage is important to me because not only is it an important ordinance but I love my husband dearly and I would be nothing without him. Even though I have only been married for 3 years I have learned a thing or two. Writing this will only help me remember what I have learned and maybe help someone else that has been having problems. These are the things that have helped me.

1. Grow up
You will never be able to make things work if you don't just grow up. Remember you are not in grade school anymore. The silly games people play with each other which I admit I have done in my marriage they just don't work. They just make you angry. They make you have petty little fights that don't mean anything. I have had small fights in my marriage I'm sure everyone has but if you are not mature enough you cant handle it. When you have those petty fights you feel like that's it I guess things aren't going to work lets get a divorce where as a mature person would take it with a grain of salt and move on. Growing up is truly necessary to having a better relationship.

2. Life is not a fairy tale
Remember when we were kids and we watched Disney movies such at The Little Mermaid, Beauty and the Beast, Cinderella etc. Those movies were so great but I'm afraid that they teach kids that life can be like a fairy tale. The problem with this is that some people never get that notion out of their heads and they constantly look for it in their relationships. They think that when they find "The One" life will completely change. Here's and example in Beauty and the Beast my favorite kids movie Belle comes from a family that doesn't really have much. Her father is the laughing stock of the town. Somehow she stumbles on this huge castle while out looking for her father and in the castle lives a beast who used to be a man but was cursed by a witch because he showed no compassion to her. She stays as a prisoner in his castle and he tries to get her to fall in love with him by showing her his softer side he even goes so far as to give her a library. Sounds like a real romantic story right? Now back to reality if this story were true for one the beast would be in jail for imprisoning her and two how many of us have ever walked into the forest and just stumbled upon a castle. Things like this don't happen everyday. When I got married I'm sure I thought things would be this way. The key is to try and loose those notions and look at whats real. That is not to say you shouldn't expect amazing fairy tale like things to happen of course that's OK but it is important to not be disappointed when the don't. You cant expect to get married and then have everything just fall into place. You have to start slowly and things come with time. A big house, expensive furniture, cars and other things are not important they will happen if you work at it but again that comes with time.

3. Spend Time Together/ Share Interests
Daniel and I are different people with different interest. I like to do crafts and Daniel likes to work on his car. I don't particularly enjoy working on his car because I have no idea what I'm doing and I'm sure he feels the same way about crafts. We have learned to try to get involved in each others hobbies. I go off roading with him when I can and sometimes he will help me with my crafts doing this helps us spend time together and in doing so we become closer. I know there are people out there that don't think spending time together is really that important but I am a firm believer that Daniel and I are as close as we are because we try to spend our time with each other.

This has been really lengthy and I am sorry for that but I told you in the beginning that its something very important to me and it makes me sad to think that there are people out there that don't realize how important it really is. I saw this picture on pinterest awhile back and I wish I could find it now because it says exactly how I feel. This picture was of an older couple and had a caption on the bottom that said something like "How have we stayed together for so long? Well we come from a generation that when things break we fix them" So true our generation is so used to throwing things away that when things break we just throw them away instead of trying to fix them. I hope we can all just hold on when things get tough and fix whats broke.